Ready, Set, Stop!

follow url If you’re interested in self-improvement, I have good news for you. You’ve got plenty to work on. Plenty! So if you have interest in self-improvement, you’ll probably find the topic to be a bottomless pit of improvements you can work on for the rest of your life.

In short, the good news is you’ve got plenty of bad news to work on!

Of course I include myself in this news. But I’ve learned one thing that makes it easier for me to deal with the depth of my condition.

Over the years, I’ve tossed more self-improvement books, CDs, podcasts, webinars and videos into my self-improvement hole than I could ever count. Did they do any good? Some, but nothing significant. At least not at first.

That’s not to say I didn’t enjoy all of that learning; I did. But the ultimate question is not about how much I learned, but what the results were. For me, not much. That is it wasn’t much until I discovered the secret of self-improvement.

The secret is to start in the right place.

Throwing books at the spectre of a poor self-perception isn’t going to scare it away. That’s because most of these resources start in the wrong place.

Imagine a house that’s in need of some improvements. Perhaps the foundation is a bit shaky. There might be a small amount of rot in a few of the structural beams. You might notice some leaks in the bedroom ceiling. Your solution: Put on some new vinyl siding?

Naaa…I don’t think so.

That would be starting on the outside…the wrong place.

Starting in the right place requires a serious look at all aspects of the house including its history, intended use and structure. Is it now a makeshift apartment house that was originally built to be a family residence? Why, you might find a beautiful and hidden painted lady, just waiting to show herself and increase property values all around her. What I’ve come to know is that personal growth does not start on the outside with “improvements.” It starts on the inside with self-discovery. The real danger is that I might end up hiding the beauty of myself with some instruction manuals from a “self-improvement hardware store.”

Start in the right place. Ignore what the world says you need to do to be a “better person.” Take a good look at who you are — who you are built to be. Uncover what you know to be your original purpose. Then, and only then, can you select the right tools to help you bring about your original, beautiful design.

  • Get ready: Get ready to take personal growth to a whole new level
  • Get set: Set your mind to accept your original design
  • Stop: Stop covering yourself up with the vinyl siding of self-improvement, then…

Go, baby go!


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One Response to Ready, Set, Stop!

  1. dean wise says:

    Let me share with you a technique i conjered recently to address issues i had regarding self-improvement. It’s one you can use all by yourself, with no need to seek input from outside sources.
    Several months ago i was feeling dissatisfied with components of both my professional and personal lives. I found myself thinking about it all the time, to the point where it began to reduce my effectiveness, and i wasn’t very congenial to those with whom i interacted. And my mood was lousy.
    Finally, i decided to sit down, alone in a room, and verbalize to myself the things that i perceived were causing my dissatisfaction.
    And then something remarkable happened.
    I began to realize that the things i was saying aloud sounded ridiculous, and somewhat absurd. I therefore concluded that my condition was not caused by random chance, cursed fate, or the unfair actions of others, but that I was, in fact, the problem. I also concluded that a major attitude adjustment was necessary.
    So i asked myself, “What more could i have done to alleviate the state of dissatisfaction in which i now find myself?” My answer? “A lot.”
    I resolved to approach conflict with a new methodology: to eschew the emotional reactions, to plainly but politely speak up when i felt wronged, and above all, begin problem solving with the idea, “What can ‘i’ do about it?” And grab that bull by the horns.
    I dont know if this verbalization technique will help you as it did me, but at least it’s an accessible way to begin. Isolating and identifying the real problem is the first step to any solution, and it may help you do that.

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