“What’s My Purpose?” Wrong Question

go here source url Want to discover your purpose? Based on my research, it should be pretty easy. Today I did a Google search on the phrase, “find your purpose.” It returned 5,720,000 hits. With all of that help and advice, discovering your purpose should be a breeze. Really. It should!

But it’s not.

Trying to discover your purpose is a big deal. And sometimes “big deal” questions cause our brains to explode. (This happened to me once. Wasn’t pretty. But it DID get lots of hits on YouTube!)

When one considers the ramifications of getting the wrong answer to a question of this magnitude, it’s not surprising that we might freeze up.  Nowadays, when a big, ugly decision sticks its finger in my face, I rarely try to solve the problem right away. Options can be too numerous, and the complexity of possibilities can stymie the process. It’s like trying to find a couple of otters in the ark: So many animals make it nearly impossible to find anything.

So rather than go off trying to find the otters, I first thin the field.

It might go something like this: Okay, so what’s bigger than an otter? Let’s get all of those things off the boat first. How about anything with wings? Beat it. Creepy-crawlers? Tell them to bug off. Pretty soon it’s easy to spot the otters because the space is nearly empty. And this is how I like to simplify complex or challenging decisions.

Let’s apply it to your question of purpose so you can see what I mean.

First, clear the ark and start with what your purpose is NOT. Your purpose is not what you should “do for a living.” It’s not your salary or the assets you acquire. It’s not necessarily what you’re good at doing, or even your passion.  My technique for helping someone to discover his/her purpose comes in answer to a different form of the question. Don’t ask, “What do I want to do with my life?” Ask my version: “What do I want to have done with my life?

Too often, seeking purpose looks future-ward to a confusion of infinite opportunities. Our young daughter once answered, “It’s too… big!” when asked a question of real consequence.

So what can you do? Clear the ark.

“What do I want to have done with my life?” will help you to determine what is truly important to you. Look backward from the end your life: What legacy do I want to leave? What do I want to have accomplished? Whom do I want to have touched or changed? How do I want to be changed, myself? How do I want to be remembered?

Как правильно принимать фенибут взрослым When seeking your future purpose, consider your full life’s past.

Seeking your purpose in life? Look back at your life it from its end, rather than from where you are today.

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3 Responses to “What’s My Purpose?” Wrong Question

  1. Maryann Plesnicher says:

    Never thought to look backwards but I really like this concept. Thanks Jeff!

  2. Joe Schwartz says:

    “Our purpose in life is to live in the service of our fellow man”. Einstein. …I tend to agree with this to the extent that I usually feel better about myself and in general when I have done something to help another improve their lot in life. My experience in health care has been that mothers in particular tend to put the interests of their children ahead of their own giving them a sense of gratification unmatched. Try doing something good for another in a way they simply will have difficulty repaying you for and see how it changes you.

  3. Jannice Moore says:

    Well said, Jeff. Putting yourself in the future, looking back at the results you want to have accomplished helps you to “frame” the question differently. Particularly powerful when applied to your purpose; also useful in thinking about the purpose of organizations, groups, etc.

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