Me, The Third Person

enter site How good are you at taking your own advice? It can be a bitter pill to swallow. Advice is usually easier to serve to others than it is to take for ourselves. I often have the most trouble when I’m looking for a solution to a challenge of my own. I’m too close to it – too emotionally involved – to see it clearly, be detached, and keep my emotions from getting the better of me. Sound familiar? It should: it’s a challenge that most of us face. Want to solve some of your own challenges more easily? Here’s one solution: Think in the “third person”.

Торговый центр Spice и Spice Home In English grammar, we utilize three “persons”: I, you, and he/she/it. The first person is written from one’s own perspective. “I run quickly.” The second person refers to another. “You run quickly.” Finally, the third person addresses another in the impersonal, “He (she or it) run(s) quickly”. By thinking about ourselves in the third person, we are able to more easily detach ourselves from the process, thereby removing one of the barriers to thinking unemotionally.

This works for goal-setting, problem-solving and the host of other decisions we face every day. Instead of trying to solve the problem for yourself, solve it for the other person, the third person.

Here’s how. Picture yourself as someone sitting across the table from you. Think about how that person acts, responds, what value they add, their talents, goals and challenges. Ask that person questions and listen to him/her talk about the issue they face. Take notes. Be honest with them. Don’t deride him/her for faults (we are all human) and remember to take particular note of their strengths.

How would you advise that person to act? What would your recommended course of action be? What resources does he/she need? In what part of the process could he/she excel and where might others be helpful? Make a list of recommendations. Create an action list of first steps to be taken.

Then get started.

We all get in our own way at times. Thinking of yourself in the third person is a great way to see things more clearly and have greater confidence in your decisions. It’s the spoonful of sugar that helps you take your own medicine, and to do it gladly.

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One Response to Me, The Third Person

  1. Jeff, you make a very good point. It’s amazing how often when meeting with a group of peers for mutual advice I have to stop and tell myself I should take the advice I just handed out to someone else! Your concept of putting yourself across the table from you can be very powerful.

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